Most people don’t think the words “successful” and “divorce” can exist in the same sentence — but that’s not entirely true. With the right mindset, approach, and divorce lawyer, couples can part ways peacefully.
Grab your divorce papers and let’s discuss the right steps to take for a quick and painless divorce.
Avoid Playing the Blame Game
One of the biggest mistakes people make during the divorce process is blaming their spouse. Divorce is often a mutual decision or the result of years of compounding issues.
You may feel anger, resentment, and betrayal among many other emotions. But blaming your spousefor these feelings won’t improve anything. It will, however, complicate and taint the divorce process.
The best way to avoid the blame game is by trying to understand exactly what happened. Look inward, first. Which of your behaviors may have attributed to the separation? Ask your partner to do the same.
When you have a shared understanding of the proceedings that led to your divorce, things often proceed more smoothly.
Strike a Balance Between Fairness and Generosity
In an attempt to have a friendly divorce some partners will say, “Give them whatever they want.” While this is very generous, is it fair? Not really.
If you wronged your spouse in some way, you may feel the need to overcompensate with a large payout or excessive spousal support or child support. Regardless of how guilty you feel, try to create a fair financial settlement. This prevents you from feeling slighted or resentful down the line.
Choose Attorneys Who Focus on Mediation
Some divorce lawyers are sharks. They’re aggressive, persistent, and ruthless. While these are great characteristics in some cases, it’s not the kind of attorney you want to achieve an amicable divorce.
Instead, choose a lawyer with experience in amicable divorces and using mediation. Mediation is often less expensive and less stressful than litigated divorce proceedings. You and your spouse can work out the division of property and finances fairly behind closed doors with the help of a neutral third party
Most mediated divorces never reach the courtroom.
Find a Trusted Outlet for Your Feelings
Regardless of how amicable your divorce is, you will likely still experience feelings of hurt, regret, and anger. This is normal. Finding a healthy outlet for these feelings can help support a peaceful divorce.
It’s often best to use an unbiased third-party like a licensed therapist or counselor. Avoid confiding in close friends or family who may have their own opinion about your spouse and the divorce proceedings.
Working out your feelings before facing your spouse can help reduce negative feelings and allow you to you approach things more calmly.
Friendly Divorces Are Possible
Divorce doesn’t have to be a long, drawn-out process. With the right resources and mindset, amicable divorces are possible.
It also helps to have a qualified and experienced divorce lawyer on your side.
The professionals at Skirbunt and Skirbunt LLC are dedicated to serving their client’s individual needs during the entire divorce process.
Contact us today for more information on our many services.